Average Jane Remembers Her Grandfather

Yesterday my grandfather passed away, just three months after my grandmother.  He had suffered from Alzheimer’s disease even longer than my grandmother had, so it had been a number of years since I’d seen him and been sure he knew who I was.  Perhaps the only good thing to come from traveling to Florida for my grandmother’s funeral is that I got to see and talk to my grandfather one last time.

In 2002, when I compiled a list of my favorite memories to send to my grandparents, I included these things I remembered about my grandfather as I was growing up:

I remember…

  • Trying to learn how to swing a golf club, courtesy of lessons by Golf Pro Grandpa in your front yard.  Sadly, I’m no better at golfing now than I was then.
  • Riding around in your 1932 Plymouth Roadster with you.  Later, I remember learning to drive a stick shift in it.  The gears were very forgiving, which was wonderful for a driver with my lack of skill at the time.  I still prefer a manual transmission, and all my cars have been stick shift ever since.
  • Marveling at the tricks you taught Poco.  I especially liked the one where he flipped a dry-roasted peanut off his nose and caught it in his mouth.  Poco didn’t like children, but we still thought he was a Wonder Dog for his great tricks.
  • Going to watch you perform with your barbershop quartet.
  • The "happy dance" you did every Christmas, immortalized on each year’s Super 8 film.
  • Riding on your motorcycle.  Even though we went really, really slowly and not particularly far, it was a huge thrill, mainly because my parents did not approve.
  • One dinner we had together at Shoney’s Restaurant.  We spent almost the entire meal discussing correct grammar.  I have no doubt that you’re the progenitor of my "Mad Grammarian" impulses.

Thank you, Grandpa, for sharing your appreciation for old cars, language, singing, Tom Lehrer records, cranberry juice, Oreo cookies, driving and reading.

Comments

12 responses to “Average Jane Remembers Her Grandfather”

  1. kevboy Avatar

    Jane, I’m very sorry for your loss. I find your memories very touching, and wish I had thought to do something like that before mine passed away.
    I’m very glad that you had the opportunity to talk to him so recently…

  2. cagey Avatar

    I am sorry about your loss – what a difficult year this has been for you so far with these losses so close together.
    On a sidenote: Have you converted your Super 8 film to DVD yet? If not, do it soon. I just went through the proces of getting all ours done and learned that those films go bad after time.
    Lovely memories!

  3. Rozanne Avatar

    Sorry about your grandpa. Tough to lose two grandparents so close together.
    I love that you and your grandpa discussed grammar at Shoney’s. I’m gonna guess that grammar is not a frequent topic of conversation at Shoney’s.

  4. Jory Des Jardins Avatar

    Jane,
    This was the sweetest tribute. It’s the small things that resonate. Thanks for sharing them.

  5. me Avatar

    That was lovely – what a nice tribute to your grandpa.
    I am very, very sorry to hear about your loss. Let me know if I can do anything.

  6. The Necklace Lady Avatar

    Jane; I love the memories you brought to life in your blog. I have very few memories of my grandparents because they lived in Indiana and I in California.
    Kevboy; thanks for the reminder that I need to get my super 8’s onto DVD… and soon.

  7. The Necklace Lady Avatar

    Sorry, that would be cagey that reminded me about the DVD’s!

  8. lizriz Avatar

    So sorry for your loss. 🙁

  9. Jane Avatar

    Thank you all for your kind thoughts.
    To answer the question about the Super 8 films, I did have them transferred to digital videotape about 8 years ago (before DVDs were quite so ubiquitous). My next goal is to get them transferred to DVD so I can edit them, add music, etc.

  10. Joy Avatar

    Jane, what a wonderful post about your grandfather. My heart is with you; and I truly do have a sense of how you must be feeling. I lost my husband 3 months ago, and just found out that my father-in-law passed away this evening. You’ll be in my thoughts…

  11. Annie Avatar

    My deepest condolences. You Grandpa sounds like a very cool guy. This was a lovely tribute.

  12. Keith Avatar

    Super post Jane. Memories are wonderful things and you have some great ones to cherish. KP

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