Category: My Past

  • Average Jane’s Brief Career in Political Advertising

    I read this article on Jezebel yesterday about actresses who play "concerned moms" in political ads and it reminded me of the time I played the "concerned child" in a radio spot as a kid.

    The background is that my mom ran a small advertising agency in the late '70s and early '80s. Occasionally she'd put me in a commercial and in this instance, the client was a group seeking to halt the overturn of the "blue laws" in Missouri.

    I only had one line, but it was the opener of the spot, "Oh mommy, do you have to go to work on Sunday?"

    No points for subtlety there.

    I remember getting to leave school in the middle of the day to go to the studio for the recording. My mom coached me on my line all the way there, which is probably why I can still hear my young voice in my head saying it.

    As an adult who enjoys the option of being able to purchase liquor 365 days a year, I must say I'm glad that her client ultimately failed in their quest to keep keep Sunday sales illegal.

    See, I wasn't kidding!The only other memorable ad I appeared in was memorable because it was so incredibly mortifying. It was a TV spot for a car dealer that involved me and the handsome son of one of my mom's friends playing a young teen couple on a first date having their first kiss at the front door. Not only was I a glasses-wearing nerd of the first order, it actually was my first kiss ever. Anyone watching the spot must have thought, "Ugh, he could do a lot better than her."

    The only reason the memory doesn't still make me flush with embarrassment is that 30-some years have passed in the interim.

    So that was the beginning and end of my acting career. To this day I can't deliver a scripted line without sounding stilted and awful, which is one of the reasons that all of my speaking engagements are so loosey-goosey. I sound like I'm speaking off the cuff because I'm making it all up as I go along. Really, it's for the best.

  • Average Jane’s First Place

    I'll bet it doesn't rent for $275 a month anymore.
    Last weekend, my husband and I drove out to the town where I lived when we first met, to get our favorite Chinese fast food. While we were in the neighborhood, we decided to cruise by the horrible little duplex where I lived back then.

    Surprisingly, it had been significantly improved since I lived there. There was new siding and a new roof and my guess is that the property had to have changed hands because I can’t imagine my old landlord paying for those kinds of updates.

    Me and Kato. This is what the outside looked like before the new siding.

    When I moved in I had just turned 23, so I was obviously a late bloomer in the “leaving the nest” department. I’d found the place in the newspaper and my first walk-through was enough to convince me that it was worth the $275 a month rent even though it was the only place I looked at. I guess I was really ready to move.

    My first act as tenant was to convince the landlord to remove the horrible carpet, which covered perfectly acceptable hardwood floors, and to pay for paint so I could repaint the living room and bedroom. I also had him haul away the unspeakably hideous mattress that lurked in the living room closet behind a Murphy bed frame that I had no intention of using.

    For a first apartment, it wasn’t too bad once I’d made a few improvements. I spent my own money to buy a couple of boxes of sticky tiles to cover the ruined kitchen floor. The paint and some curtains and Wal-mart blinds did wonders. I covered the bathroom windows in frosted plastic film.

    When I moved in, the inside of the oven was so dirty that I thought the enamel was brown. It turned out to be blue once I’d dissolved all the gunk away. I imagine the fridge was horrid as well, but I’ve blocked the details from memory.

    I had minimal furniture, but I did my best to make things match with spray paint. Faux stone finishes were popular at the time and I went through several cans of a teal and black color to complete the early ’90s style I was going for. My tiny bedroom had only a twin bed, a dresser, two PA speakers and a mixing board.

    The only piece of wall decor I had was a print of Robert Rauschenberg’s Rebus that was already there when I moved in. I left it for the next tenant when I moved out.

    One of the worst things about the place was the water pressure. There was practically none. In fact, every time I needed to do dishes I would start filling the sink and just walk away because it took so long. I accidentally let it overflow more than once.

    The place also lacked a shower, so I was forced to purchase a hose/shower head device that attached to the bathtub faucet. It wasn’t really long enough for a proper shower, but it got me by. Of course, the water pressure was just as bad in the bathroom as in the kitchen…

    How do you like that stylin' papasan chair and lace curtains?

    When I moved in, I had one cat named Kato. I could tell he was lonely, so I got a kitten from my vet’s office to keep him company. Friday was a pee cat, and her 16-year reign of stinky terror began with the destruction of a really cool mid-century sofa that a boyfriend’s parents had given me. Sigh. Fortunately, she was otherwise a lovely kitty.

    I liked hanging out in what passed for a yard and I even planted daffodil and tulip bulbs. It’s possible that the daffodils remain today.

    Because I’d grown up away from the city, it didn’t occur to me that it was a bad idea to simply leave my bicycle outside my kitchen door. I didn’t notice that someone had stolen it until one day when the boyfriend I had at the time came over to pick me up to go bike riding and it was nowhere to be found.

    Later on, after I met my husband-to-be, we decided to get a place closer to where we both worked. The rent at the new apartment was $375 a month. A huge increase! But I could afford it and not long after that, the company where I worked moved less than a mile away from the apartment, which made things even more convenient.

    No one was more surprised than I when I received a check for my original deposit on the duplex shortly after I moved out. I hadn’t known it at the time I moved in, but I later discovered that my landlord was the most notorious slumlord in the area. From what I could gather, I might have been the only tenant who ever got a deposit refund. I guess my improvements must have outweighed the cat pee smell!

  • Average Jane’s Anniversary

    Fourteen years ago today, my husband-to-be and I (along with far too many family members) attended an important event here:

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    It's the Silver Bell Wedding Chapel in Las Vegas. Yes, that's where I got married, wearing my mother's old dress and a veil I made from items I bought at a craft store (although you couldn't tell at all).

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    Look how happy I was – and it wasn't just because I was a size 5 and still had a discernable waist!

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    We still look happy in this photo taken back at the Mirage, but that's only because we're having our picture taken. By then, the beautiful shoes I'd bought to go with the dress were killing my feet, my blood sugar had long since crashed, and I was feeling Bridezilla-ish long before anyone had even coined the term.

    Fortunately, that was a temporary situation. Fourteen years later we're still best friends, looking forward to our traditional anniversary steak dinner at J. Gilbert's and planning fun things to do next year for our 15th anniversary.

    My husband stopped reading my blog a long time ago, but I'll still say it, "Happy Anniversary, honey!

  • Average Jane Shows the Rest of the Picture

    The little scribbly cartoon of me that I've used as the symbol for this blog was drawn sometime around 1994 when I was working at a printing company with a great group of women. We were all English majors who had been hired to proofread and typeset custom printed invitation and announcement cards.

    One thing you wouldn't know about the sketch is that I wasn't the only one in the drawing. I ran across my copy of the whole page, which depicts everyone on our shift at the time except for the cartoonist who drew it:

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    For the first time, meet Valorie, me, Christy and Kristine.

    Valorie still comes over from time to time for game nights and other get-togethers. Christy has lived in Indianapolis for many years and I'm overdue to visit. I haven't seen Kristine since we worked together, but she was always a lot of fun.

    My favorite thing about these cartoons is how much they capture the essence of each person. Thanks, Cari, for your spur-of-the-moment drawing that's become such a great memory.